Dear Brothers and Sisters,
Reconciliation as Life Skill
Part Four – Consequential
The love story of our life would be much easier to tell if we did not have to live with contingency, if we could live outside the time/space continuum. We do not know when a possible future event or circumstance will happen; for mortals certainty is at a premium. Some people get obsessed with what may be in their future and start to live outside reality. It is normal, I suppose to be neurotic at times. The easy definition of the difference between neurosis and psychosis is that neurotics build castles in the sky (dream) but psychotics live in them. People who dream avoid psychosis by their successful reconciliation of what they believe and what they perceive. Psychosis can be an eventual consequence of unsuccessful reconciliation. They do not deal successfully with objective reality.
I believe that unrealistic expectations about the nature of marriage accounts at least partially for the failure rate of so many marriages. At the time a couple is able to discern that they aren’t so much in love with their partner, though they think they are, if they are honest, they find that they are in love with love itself, that powerful experience of being infatuated. They are in love with that wonderful, powerful, fiery energy inside them.
When a honeymoon has done its work and disillusionment and disappointment set in, it is successful reconciliation that enables a couple to move their relationship to a deeper level. A beautiful, fruitful marriage can continuously reveal that wonderful energy inside them that is no longer contingent primarily upon hormones. That is the evidence of a sacramental marriage: the couple’s continuous successful reconciliation reveals the infinitely comprehensible mystery of God’s love in them.
What has been said about marriage can be said about any covenant including the one we have with God. Our need to reconcile is not to avoid the shame that is connected with the guilt of transgression but is rather the means of maintaining a life-giving relationship. Reconciliation enables people to give off that wonderful, powerful, fiery energy inside them without burning out. Moses saw the burning bush that was not consumed by the fire only because he kept looking long enough to notice that the bush was not being consumed. He then came to believe what he was seeing.
Our ability to avoid “flaming out” in our relationships is the result of our continuous reconciliation, the conversion of our belief to align with our perception of reality. For example, it is hard to reconcile our belief in global warming as we continue to experience cold spells that are historic for their depth and duration. Like Moses, it may be necessary for us to study climatic changes long enough to determine whether the warming of the oceans, giant heat sinks, is causing changes in the jet stream that drive artic air south, or whether the very idea is the result of bad science. Failure to reconcile successfully could lead to mass extinction. Reconciliation is indeed consequential.
Reconciliation leads to avoidance of death whether the death is of a planet or a relationship. Sin may be understood as the choice to live outside the reality of God’s love. Reconciliation is the necessary maintenance work that keeps relationships alive in time and space. It overcomes contingencies. When the relationship being maintained is love, it bears the benchmark of God who is Love. It is the stuff that makes the passage through death possible. Jesus revealed that fact.
Reconciliation is the normal process that makes human love eternally consequential.
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Weekday Masses are in The Annunciation Chapel (located in the white building by the parking lot). The Mass times in our Chapel are: 8:00 a.m. on Mon., Tues., Thurs., & Fri. There is No Wed. mass.
Saint Andrew and Saint Jude
Ken Adams; 814-440-7813
1:30-4:00pm every other Tuesday
Food and clothing are available.
We are able to serve anyone in the neighborhood within our Second Harvest boundaries and all parishioners in need.
8:00 a.m. to noon
12:30 p. m. to 4:00 p. m.
Wednesday, closed all day.
Every Saturday, 3:30 p.m. at St. Paul Church
Every Saturday; 3:30 p.m. at Sacred Heart Church
Every Sunday; after 11:00 a.m. Mass at Saint Andrew Church
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Or by appointment, call the St. Andrew Rectory at 454-2486.
Sunday: 8:00 a.m. and 11:00 a.m.
Holy Day Eucharist
or as marked in bulletin